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Question: I want to make sure I’m pleasing my wife when we make love. Can you tell me how long intercourse should last?
It’s the question that weighs on a lot of men’s minds.
There’s a belief that in order for a guy to be super studly, he needs to last all through the night. And, of course, there are definitely some couple’s who want to board the sex-all-night-train.
Generally though, although the closeness of intercourse feels nice it’s not getting most women off.
Why? Her clitoris isn’t located inside of her vagina. So simply having penis-vagina intercourse all night long will become boring quick—for her.
This is especially true when there hasn’t been enough foreplay for a woman’s vagina to become sufficiently aroused. You see while in a resting state a vagina is like a collapsed tube. Once aroused the vaginal canal balloons out and becomes juicy by producing her natural lubrication.
When her vagina isn’t properly aroused—at least 10 to 15 minutes of foreplay—chaffing can occur making intercourse uncomfortable.
So for the average couple, after she is aroused 10 to 15 minutes of intercourse will probably do the trick. However, studies show that the average length of intercourse lasts for three to seven minutes.
GREAT SEX TIP:
Want the sex to last longer? Focus on tons of foreplay and taking a break during intercourse to do other erotic activities.
Question: I’ve never had an orgasm during intercourse. Is there something wrong with me?
Answer: Absolutely not!
Unfortunately many women get their sex education from romance novels or media and assume that every woman will, "Immediately explode with pleasure as his rock hard python enters her.”
Truth is, contrary to pop-culture belief, not all women can have a vaginal and g-spot orgasm. This is due to her genetics and not because she’s uptight and/ or doing something wrong during sex.
Some women will consistently have a vaginal orgasm with intercourse; others will sometimes have a vaginal orgasm; and some will never. Chances are if you cannot have a vaginal orgasm, you probably won’t be able to have a g-spot orgasm either.
Orgasm problems arise when there’s a lot of pressure put on a gal—from herself or her partner—to have a vaginal or g-spot orgasm. Even if she is able, with that stress hanging over her bed it’s most likely never going to happen. It’s only when she’s completely relaxed, aroused and into the sex that it can occur.
The good news is every woman can have a clitoral orgasm—which are pretty wonderful creatures in and of themselves. And thanks to FixSation having that wonderful clitoral orgasm during intercourse just got a whole lot more fun and easier.
As you can see, every woman’s orgasm experience is different and therefore how you experience orgasm is very normal. So don't worry about what everyone else is doing, simply focus on yourself and what makes your feel sexy and pleasurable.
GREAT SEX TIP:
As every woman's orgasm experience is unique to her, some women will have multiple orgasms while others will have one huge explosion.